By taking responsibility for your children's online
computer use, parents can greatly minimize any potential risks of
being online. Make it a family rule to:
- Never give out identifying information -- home address, school name, or
telephone number -- in a public message such as chat or bulletin boards, and
be sure you're dealing with someone that both you and your child know and
trust before giving it out via E-mail. Think carefully before revealing any
personal information such as age, marital status, or financial information.
Consider using a pseudonym or unlisting your child's name if your service
allows it.
- Get to know the services your child uses. If you don't know how to log on,
get your child to show you. Find out what types of information it offers and
whether there are ways for parents to block out objectionable material.
- Never allow a child to arrange a face-to-face meeting with another computer
user without parental permission. If a meeting is arranged, make the first
one in a public spot, and be sure to accompany your child.
- Never respond to messages or bulletin board items that are suggestive, obscene,
belligerent, threatening, or make you feel uncomfortable. Encourage your children
to tell you if they encounter such messages. If you or your child receives
a message that is harassing, of a sexual nature, or threatening, forward a
copy of the message to your service provider and ask for their assistance.
Should you become aware of the transmission, use, or viewing of child pornography
while online, immediately report this to the National Center for Missing and
Exploited Children by calling 1-800-843-5678. You should also notify your
online service.
- Remember that people online may not be who they seem. Because you can't
see or even hear the person it would be easy for someone to misrepresent him-
or herself. Thus, someone indicating that "she" is a "12-year-old
girl" could in reality be a 40-year-old man.
- Remember that everything you read online may not be true. Any offer that's
"too good to be true" probably is. Be very careful about any offers
that involve your coming to a meeting or having someone visit your house.
- Set reasonable rules and guidelines for computer use by your children (see
"My Rules for Online Safety" on
last page as sample). Discuss these rules and post them near the computer
as a reminder. Remember to monitor their compliance with these rules,
especially when it comes to the amount of time your children spend
on the computer. A child or teenager's excessive use of online services
or bulletin boards, especially late at night, may be a clue that there
is a potential problem. Remember that personal computers and online
services should not be used as electronic babysitters.
Be sure to make this a family activity. Consider keeping the computer in a
family room rather than the child's bedroom. Get to know their "online
friends" just as you get to know all of their other friends.
This brochure was written by Lawrence J. Magid, a syndicated columnist for the
Los Angeles Times, who is author of Cruising Online: Larry Magid's Guide to the
New Digital Highway (Random House, 1994) and The Little PC Book (Peachpit Press,
1993).
Child Safety on the Information Highway was jointly produced by the National
Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Interactive Services Association
(8403 Colesville Road, Suite 865, Silver Spring, MD 20910).
This brochure was made possible by the generous sponsorship of: America
Online, CompuServe, Delphi Internet, e-World, GEnie, Interchange Online Network,
and Prodigy Service.